It amazes me the enduring power people can have over one another.
I do business with my ex and even though we’ve both moved on and are comfortable being friends, we still have this strange chemistry that draws out the best in one another. Somehow he has a way of pulling eloquent sentences from my mind and taking things three layers deep with one question. At the same time, I still get nervous around him and awkwardly bump into things. Somehow I am able to be the ego boost that pushes him to take bold new steps and try new challenges which inevitably seem to pop up after our conversations. We both know that we’re that ‘wrong timing’ relationship that never totally goes away… but both of us have outgrown that past.
Then there was the international artist who charmed me with his intellect, challenging culture and creative ways. He always had the upper hand, seducing me with a foreign life I so respected and longed to understand, while I always felt as if I had nothing to give him in return. Except somehow I ended up repeatedly being this artist’s muse. He would hit a multi-month dead end, lose his mojo or be inspiration-less until I would wander into his life and make everything better. It was such a strange and common occurrence. I held him in such great esteem and I never felt it reciprocate, yet I knew that I had the ability to pull him from the darkness, even if I didn’t understand the ability at all.
I’m sure there have been studies on this topic that would try to classify personality types. Or maybe it has to do with the astrological sign combinations. What is the feeling when you’re powerless when you’re with someone else?
